follow this steps https://www.patreon.com/posts/how-to-join-to-111219730?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link
and also dont unpledge right away after you join or the patreon bot will kick you!
i notice many people joins and unpledges right after,and the patreon bot will remove you from the server ,is not something i control